This is your year! Yes, you’ve heard it before, but I’m going to say it again – this is your year! In 2009 you WILL meet that special lesbian woman to utilize your time with.
Why haven’t you met her by now? There’s lots of reasons, and you know what they are. But in 2009, you’re going to change that.
So how do you meet that special lesbian woman? In a bar? That’s not really a great way, is it? When alcohol comes into the picture it often turns into nothing more than sex. You want more than sex, right? You want a relationship.
Can you meet her at work? Maybe. But where do you work? Chances are you don’t work at a location that has a number of eligible lesbians who are out of the closet and looking for love.
In your neighborhood? Maybe. Do you live in a cheerful friendly neighborhood? Are there a lot of lesbians living in your neighborhood? Better yet – are they single? That special lesbian woman is not just going to land on your doorstep.
In the 21st century, one of the best ways to meet that special lesbian woman is online. That’s correct – online. Perhaps you’ve been told that meeting a person online is what losers do. WRONG! Did you know that millions of people have met their partners online? It’s true! Meeting a person online is smart – if you do it right.
1. One of the best places to seek for that special lesbian woman is at an online dating site. There are many dating sites out there. Your best bet is to focus on a dating site that caters to lesbian women only.
2. The one thing you must be with a reputable online dating site is objective. You expect that special lesbian woman to tell it to you straight (pardon the pun) and she will expect the same from you. That means that your details and your photo are an accurate description and depiction of you. Don’t tell her you seek like Jennifer Aniston or Reese Witherspoon if you don’t really. Post a recent photo of you and not one that shows you 15 pounds lighter from 10 years ago. Be proud of who you are and you will meet a woman who respects you for who you are – flaws and all. On the other hand, don’t limit yourself to only the most attractive photos during your search. Study the profiles and remember that beauty is more than skin deep.
3. Online correspondence is a great method to wreck the ice and get to know someone. Get over the idea that everything has to be done on the phone. That’s 20th century thinking. This is the 21st century and online correspondence is fine for those beginning conversations. You can always move to the phone later when you know each other better. Many online dating sites have forums where you can communicate with one woman or many. In addition, online correspondence protects your identity until you really trust the person. Online dating sites work hard at keeping people who enter with false information out – like men posing as women – but you still need to protect your personal information until you feel comfortable with the person.
4. Once you feel comfortable and you’ve been communicating for a while, now it’s time to meet that special lesbian woman in person. Choose a neutral location. A restaurant is a good place. That way you’re in a safe place and you can talk to each other face to face. If the date doesn’t work out, you can both leave and move on. Remember also what I said about honesty. Dress the way you normally would. Don’t try to create an image that’s not you. Again, if she likes you, she will like you for you and not some image that you think will impress her.
5. Once you really get to know each other, you’re ready to move on to the sex. Remember that safe sex is always the goal.
So take that step for 2009 and meet that special lesbian woman. An online dating site that caters to lesbian women is a great start!
